Carla Hyde

Carla Hyde

Monday, June 6, 2011

Conflicts Within?


Can we embrace the conflict within? A psychiatrist friend once said, "we HAVE to be able to deal with our mixed feelings." It is normal and natural to feel mixed about things. In this day and age of instant and immediate reactions to events and ideas we are encouraged to feel only one way about things. What ever happened to saying "Well, I'll have to think about that for a while," or let me "meditate" on that. Can we admit that we have mixed feelings about something or does that somehow say we are "weak" and/or indecisive?
I feel that if we embrace our mixed feelings it will ultimately make us feel more whole and integrated. We ARE NOT one dimensional, we DO have many different feelings (sometimes opposing) that make us whole and human. It's a beautiful thing... EMBRACE YOUR TOTALITY!

Saturday, June 4, 2011

A Friendly Conflict?

"Anger cannot be overcome by anger. If someone is angry with you, and you show anger in return, the result is a disaster. On the other hand, if you control your anger and show its opposite – love, compassion, tolerance and patience – not only will you remain peaceful, but the other person's anger will also diminish". Dalai Lama
I have recently been involved in some conflicts between friends. I find myself in the middle of things since I have loved every one of them. And now it is coming down to picking "sides". Which for me is impossible since I believe each of them have been both in the wrong and in the right. The actual "truth" is subjective depending on who I talk to. And I too have been right, wrong and selfish. So how am I to judge?, and choose a side. (This is why I would make a terrible juror by the way).
So what I have decided to do is take no one's side, stay friends with everyone and move on from here. That is my lesson.